Imagine a world where the parent-child relationship works right. Where children respect, admire and honor their fathers and mothers. Where parents are patient, loving and wise in raising and shaping their kids.
I believe this is the Apostle Paul’s vision for the family. He says followers of Christ ought to do the parent-child relationship in Jesus’ name. Join us as we look at practical ways to do that.
- I will plan to have fun and laugh.
- I will purposely spend time and invest in the relationship.
- I will encourage by getting personal, inspirational and physical.
- I will help my kids discover the way they should go in life.
- I will love irrationally.
- I will walk with God.
Full Sermon Script:
Imagine a world where the parent-child relationship works right.
Where children respect, admire and honor their fathers and mothers.
Where parents are patient, loving and wise in raising and shaping their kids.
I believe this is a biblical vision for the family.
Look at Colossians 3:20-21
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
The apostle Paul is calling the church to rethink the parent/child relationship.
In the culture Paul was writing, children were often oppressed. They had no real rights. Parents could sell their kids as slaves if they wanted to in that culture.
And into that environment Paul writes:
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
And on the reciprocal side, verse 21
Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
Paul says, children obey your parents and do it with a willing spirit not with a resentful attitude.
And parents, specifically dads, draw your kids in. Don’t drive them away in a way that they would become embittered or discouraged.
Paul says to children — it’s real easy to be disobedient when relating to your parents.
Paul says to parents — it’s real easy to respond to your kids in a way that causes them to lose heart.
So a question to start off this message is, if you’re the child — what am I doing that’s interpreted by my parents as disobedience?
Or if you’re the parent — what am I doing that causes my child to lose heart, to become discouraged?
Let me give you one real specific application point that I think will help both the parents and children, and that is:
Make a commitment that you’re going to invest in the relationship.
Make a commitment that you’re going to invest in the relationship.
Some of you may say, “Well, that’s obvious, of course I’m going to invest in the relationship.”
Well today I want to talk about a number of ways, very practically, that we can invest in the relationship.
I want to talk about some relational principles that come right from God’s Word. And by the way, these relational principles can apply to any relationship, so if you’re not a parent these principles still apply to other relationships.
But before we get into it, I need to make a disclaimer. It’s the same one I made last week but it’s worth saying again.
I used to be an exert on parenting. And then I had children.
Now I know that if I talk about parenting and how to raise kids, you’re going to watch my kids and laugh and say, “It doesn’t work does it?”
I am not an expert on parenting! I have three kids that I love very much, but I’m not an expert.
What you’re hearing today is from a pastor who loves kids.
For most of my years as a pastor, before starting Blue Oaks, I spent just about every week working with students.
And as a matter of fact, for my wife and I, for the first ten years of our marriage working with teenagers was a form of birth control.
I’ll tell you what I am, I’m a learner, and over the past 20+ years I’ve looked at some really great kids and I’ve looked at some really troubled kids and I’ve tried to find out what things contribute to these kids being either great or troubled.
We’re going to talk about commitments kids need from their parents. And these commitments are really what I’ve learned from working with students for 20+ years.
We’re going to look at six commitments.
Alright, the first commitment is:
We need to have fun.
I’m not saying that we need to be stand up comedians or be goofy all the time. I’m talking about a home where fun and laughter is a natural element.
When I led middle school and high school ministries, one thing I learned about teenagers is they want to bring their friends to a home that’s fun.
And I think we ought to talk about fun in the church. And I think specifically, as Christians, we ought to be modeling fun to the world.
So many people think of the church or they think of Christians, and the first word that comes to their mind is “boring”.
That was my first thought before I started following Christ. I had a stereotype of all Christians — they were nerdy and boring. No offense to those of you who are accountants.
But John 10:10 says:
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life and have it to the fullest.
God wants us to live life to the fullest — that means we should be having some fun along the way.
In my marriage relationship the most romantic thing I can give my wife is my “time”, and I have to make that happen because it’s fun.
And the same is true with you. Time is romantic, and romance is fun but you have to make it happen.
It really doesn’t matter all that much what Kathy and I do, as long as I take the time to invest in the relationship.
Some of us fall into this trap though.
“What do you want to do tonight?”
“I don’t know what do you want to do?”
“I don’t care. You decide.”
“Alright, let’s decide over dinner. Where do you want to go to dinner?”
“I don’t know. Were do you want to go?”
“I don’t care. You decide.”
Women, let me let you in on a little secret. When you tell us “I don’t really care where we go” we actually believe you.
“Where do you want to go to dinner?”
“I don’t care.”
“Okay, well let’s go to Chipoltle.”
“Chipoltle! Why don’t we just go to In-N-Out and save a buck? But, no! Wherever you want to go. I don’t care.”
Here’s the deal, when we take the time and make it happen, it really doesn’t matter where we go. Time is romantic, and romance is fun.
We need to teach our kids how to have fun. We need to model fun for them. We need to teach them how to have fun without having to buy them all kinds of toys.
I used to love taking students on mission trips. Because we’re away from all of the stuff in our lives and we’re with kids that play games with rocks and sticks. And they have the time of their lives.
One of my favorite games is dodge rock. It’s where you stand twenty feet away from each other and hurl rocks at each other.
If you cry, you’re out.
We can’t buy fun for our kids. They already have it. We just need to model it for them.
Let me give you some ideas.
First of all: Laugh
Today’s generation of young people have stress related diseases and illnesses that are normally reserved for adults.
Why are kids a lot more stressed out today than they used to be? One, because we live in a fast-paced society and two, because their parents are so driven themselves that these kids feel the pressure to perform, and the pressure to succeed, and the pressure to make a decision in a world where there’s not a lot of black and white anymore. There’s a lot of gray and that brings pressure.
When homes are troubled and broken, it brings a lot of pressure for kids. And the result is that we have a premature adulthood. We have kids who are growing up at a pace where they’ve lost their innocence. They’ve lost their wonder and their joy and their discovery for life.
Really they’ve received too much information too soon. And I think we have a generation of young people who are sophisticated, but not mature… sophisticated, but not mature.
That’s why we have jokes like: two five year olds were playing together — one five year old says to the other, “hey I found a condom on the patio.” The other five year old says, “What’s a patio?”
They’re sophisticated, but not mature. And I believe one of the answers to this — to help kids — is to give them an environment where they can just laugh.
It is scientifically verifiable that laughter releases stress. And it is my unscientific observation that laughter and fun in relationships produces health.
Like I said earlier, I’m not saying we need to be stand-up comedians. But we have to work at this in relationships. We need to ask the question, “How do I create an atmosphere for laughter?”
We need to be modeling laughter and fun in our world. We ought to be setting the pace for fun and for joy because it’s Biblical.
Abraham and David, heroes of our faith, they laughed.
Ecclesiastes 3 says:
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens… a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. Ecclesiastes 3:1,4
One of the natural rhythms of life is laughter and dance. If you want to fully live — if you want to understand what it means to live abundantly, meaningfully, joyfully — you have to dance and you have to laugh. It’s one of the natural rhythms of life.
The writer of Scripture says it’s good for us physically in Proverbs 17:22.
A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.
It’s good for us emotionally — Proverbs 15:13
A happy heart makes the face cheerful.
A friend of mine asked me, “Matt are you happy?” I responded, “Yeah, I’m happy.” He said, “Well tell your face.”
A joyful heart makes a cheerful face.
When we laugh it reduces some of our anxiety. It relieves some of our embarrassment. It eases some of our anger. Laugher gives us the emotional energy we need to keep going.
Another thing we can do is: Lighten up
Some of us have bought into the myth that the more serious we are the more mature we are. The truth is the more serious we are the more boring we are.
It’s a sad lie, and something I struggle with, that maturity and seriousness fit together. It’s simply not true.
The Jesus I know laughed and he had fun and he wasn’t so serious all the time. The Pharisees were serious.
Think about the way Jesus taught. He used paradox and irony and exaggeration to communicate his message. I imagine he spent a lot of time laughing.
Think about what he spent most of his time doing. He was camping with his best friends.
There had to be laughter as they were sitting around the campfire and Peter said something funny and Jesus thought it was so funny that he shot milk out of his nose.
Some people have a hard time with that. They think, “No he didn’t. He said, ‘Thou art funny Peter, I delighteth in your humor.’” Seriously!
If we believe Jesus never laughed or smiled or used humor than we have an underdeveloped view of who God is. And that view of God is either who we run to or who we run from.
Some of us need to lighten up. We need to get serious about our commitment to God, but we need to lighten up about some of the other areas of life.
Another thing we can do to create fun environments is: Listen
Listen to what makes your kids laugh. Listen to what makes you laugh.
Do you know what makes you laugh? Do you know what kind of environment you need to be in that will make you laugh and have fun? You need to know, because when you’re tired or stressed you need to put yourself in that environment.
One of them for me it’s watching crashes — bike crashes, skateboarding crashes, snowboard crashes. That stuff makes me laugh. I love to watch people fall. I love to watch people fall off a bike, slip on ice, or get hit below the waist with a flying object. That’s funny stuff.
Do you know what makes you laugh? Have you listened for it in your own life?
Also, do you know what makes your kids laugh?
Listen for it. When one of your kids says, “You know what would be hilarious… if we did this one day.” Write it down. Yeah it will be hilarious because we’re going to do it someday.
Healthy kids live in environments where there’s laughter and fun.
Alright, the next commitment is
One of the most important things your child needs from you is your attention. The time you spend with your child is crucial to their development.
Maybe you believe quality time is more important than quantity time. I don’t know how else to say it — you’re wrong. You can’t have quality time without quantity time.
Many people who say that about quality time are people who are guilty over the lack of time they do spend with their children. They try to justify it with that statement.
You may be thinking, “Am I supposed to feel guilty if I’m not spending time with my kids?”
Yeah, I think so.
I understand this is something parents constantly face and battle. But we should probably feel guilty if we’re putting our selfish interests of multiple softball leagues, working out at the gym, extra Bible studies that take us out during the evenings, or an addiction to finish a to do list in front of our time with our kids.
How do you think your kids feel when you tell them you don’t have time to spend with them and then they see you walk out the door with your golf clubs to go spend five hours with other people? They may not say anything, but they tuck it away into who they are. All those things add up.
Research has discovered that with absent parents kids struggle to manage their anger. Angry kids are often times the result of absent parents.
A study from Harvard University explains that the single most common factor producing anger, rage and hostility in kids is “the perceived inaccessibility of one or both parents.” It just has to be perceived that we’re inaccessible.
Child development experts tells us the critical window in the lives of kids is from infancy to age 10. They say what happens in that 10-year season of time sets up each child for a life of blessing or a life of brokenness.
This is really the decade of destiny in the formation of children. And so much of the outcome of their lives comes back to this — how much did dads breathe into their lives during those 10 years?
So I need to ask you, dads, are you spending time with your kids? Are you engaged, and tuned in, and loving, and supportive? I know you feel tugged a dozen different ways with what to do with your time, energy and leadership. And I know it feels like there are not enough hours in the day.
But if you look at the big picture — life expectancy for men these days is a little under 80. If you do the math, just one-eighth of your life can set up your children for a life of blessing. What a gift you give your kids when you devote yourself to them in that era.
Maybe you need to climb the career ladder at a slower pace. Do that if you need to. Be there for your kids.
If you’re not good at that, read some books, or attend a fathering seminar or something. Go to a good Christian counselor if you need to.
Be thoroughly involved with your kids as they’re growing up.
And most importantly dads, we need to be involved with their spiritual development.
The single most important influence in a child’s decision to follow Christ is a dad who is fully surrendered to Christ.
Our attention matters.
This idea of attention helps us understand why kids love their grandparents so much. Grandparents play a crucial role in the life of kids.
This is an essay written by a third grader on, “What is a grandma?”
A grandmother is a lady who has no children of her own, so she likes other peoples little boys and girls.
A grandfather is a man grandmother. He goes for walks and talks about fishing and tractors.
Grandmothers don’t have to do anything except just be there.
They’re so old they shouldn’t play or run.
When they take us for walks they slow down past things like pretty leaves and caterpillars. They never say hurry up.
Usually they’re fat, but not too fat to tie their shoes.
They wear glasses and funny underwear.
They don’t have to be smart. They only have to answer questions like, “Why do dogs hate cats?” And “How come God isn’t married?”
When they read to us they don’t skip.
Everybody should try to have a grandma, especially if you don’t have a TV because grandmas are the only ones who have a lot of time.
The importance of attention starts now.
The apostle Paul writes to the church at Philippi:
Don’t be jealous or proud, but be humble and consider others more important than yourselves. Care about them as much as you care about yourselves. Philippians 2:3-4
In Philippians 2:5, Paul is talking about Jesus. He says,
Although he was equal with God, he humbled himself and became like a servant. Philippians 2:5
Jesus modeled for us this type of putting other people first.
He says in Romans 12:10:
Love one another, outdo one another in showing honor. Romans 12:10
We need to care about our family more than we care about ourselves.
Alright, so make fun, make time, and third:
Do you know how you know if a kid needs encouragement?
You and I know this because it’s one of our deepest cravings. I’ve never met anyone who has said, “You got to stop with the encouragement thing. I’ve had it about up to here with your encouragement.” No. We long for it and when it happens we can’t wait until it happens again.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 says:
So give encouragement to each other, and keep strengthening one another.
Strengthening is what encouragement does. Another word for strengthening is to build up, to fortify, to make strong. And I can’t think of anything more that we can give our kids than to make them strong.
Our kids long for our encouragement.
Be liberal with your praise. We hold onto encouragement like it’s really expensive. It’s not expensive. It’s free, but it is valuable and we desperately need it.
Also weigh your words.
James tells us the tongue is a small part of the body, but it’s like a fire and can start a forest fire. You and I know that words hurt.
Whoever came up with the phrase, “sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me” is a total idiot. I would much rather be hit with a stick, because we don’t forget words.
And the reason I know that is because I have a lot of conversations with people who aren’t doing something with their life because someone a long time ago told them that they couldn’t.
Words cause pain and I think that’s why the writer of Scripture says in Proverbs 12:
Careless words stab like a sword. Proverbs 12:18
What we might say in a relaxed setting can lodge in the heart of a person and never be forgotten.
Let your father and mother be glad, let her rejoice who gave birth to you.
Our children are treasures from God and they should be treated that way — they should be prized and cherished. They should be told tens of thousands of times that we’re crazy about them.
Alright, now how do we become people of encouragement? I’ll give you a couple practical things.
The first is to get personal. Not superficial, talking about what they’re wearing or what they’re hair looks like. Get personal — catch them doing things right.
Those of you who have teenagers, now is when they need our encouragement the most. Developmentally, emotionally, socially, spiritually, they need your encouragement the most. And it’s unfortunately when they get it the least.
They’re harder to encourage and yet they need it the most.
Parents, keep at it. Picture your kid with a tattoo on their forehead. For some of you that’s not too difficult of a picture, is it? A tattoo on their forehead that says, “Encourage Me!”
Every time you see them, think of encouragement. And don’t expect it back. It doesn’t come back.
I was a youth pastor for a lot of years and it doesn’t come back until they’re gone. No teenager ever said to me, “I just want to thank you for the time you spend with me and for teaching me and for driving me everywhere and for… they were like, “Dude can I borrow two bucks?”
Get personal… and the second thing is to get inspirational.
Encouragement ought to be inspirational. Write down these four words — “I believe in you.”
When those words are said by someone who’s significant, not just moms and dads, from anyone significant… those words are powerful. Words shape.
You see it all the time. When some of you introduce your kids, you shape them by your introduction.
This is my shy daughter Jill as your daughter hides behind your leg because she’s heard it for the hundredth time.
This is my demon-child Bobby.
Words are powerful.
This whole image of inspiration in highly Biblical.
Jesus did it with a fisherman by the name of Simon. A clumsy, big-mouthed, impulsive fisherman.
Jesus saw the difference between the real and the ideal. Jesus said, “Simon, I’m going to change your name, I’m going to call you Peter — which means rock, stable, trustworthy, capable.
And I can picture Peter’s friends thinking, “yeah right, Peter, a rock?” But Jesus saw that difference between the real and the ideal and said I’m going to paint a picture of who you can become.
And if you look in the book of Acts at the development of the early church, who was a crucial rock — Peter.
Alright, the third point there is to get physical.
Physical expression of love through hugs and affection are a great way to encourage kids. Every kid has a need for affection… and it doesn’t go away with age.
Dads, we need to be affectionate with our kids.
In my experience, some of the most promiscuous teenagers were from families where there was a nonexistent or non-affectionate male.
If they’re not getting it from their dads, they’re going to get it from somewhere. It’s sad, but it’s true.
And some of you may get a little defensive and say, “You don’t know the environment I grew up in. You don’t know what my house was like. My parents weren’t affectionate with me.” Okay, break the cycle then.
There was a book written in the early 1900’s on parenting. This is what it said:
Never kiss a child, kissing carries germs.
If you must, kiss them on the forehead in the morning and evening and avoid excesses.
And then another one from a child development guru in the 1920’s:
Treat your child as a young adult. No kissing or sitting on the lap. He and you should be ashamed at such mockish ways of expressing feeling. At best, a pat on the head passes on a message of approval.
You know what? My parents grew up in a home like that. And that’s why they were not affectionate.
Dads, we need to have the courage to break that cycle. Have the courage to hug and kiss and wrestle with your kids.
Look at Hebrews 3:13
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today.”
Alright, the next commitment is:
As parents we are to invest in our children. It’s our job to help them discover their abilities and capabilities in order to help them choose a course in life.
Proverbs 22:6 says:
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
There are two different understandings with this Proverb — the first is the general truth about raising children that says most of the patterns that we set for our kids early on in their lives will gradually take root and become their own later on in life.
Therefore if we teach and train them about right and wrong, about honesty, about being responsible, respectful and kind — those values will tend to become their own over time.
And as we help them understand that there’s a God who loves them and there’s a Savior named Jesus Christ who paid for their sin and who wants to guide and direct them in life — if they’re given a spiritual foundation — they will take it with them throughout the course of their lives. They’ll eventually make it their own and pass it on to their children.
That’s one understanding — train our children in the way they should go and they’ll most likely take it to be their own later on in life.
But there’s another understanding on this same text — train up a child in THE WAY he or she SHOULD go, and when he or she is old they will not depart from it.
Scholars who study this text are convinced that the writer of Proverbs was also challenging parents to discover the natural aptitudes and abilities of their children and encourage their development over time so that a child could eventually find THE WAY that he or she should go or the path that is unique for them to take in life.
One of the greatest gifts we can give our children is an understanding of the special abilities God put into their lives and a helping hand to gradually draw out those abilities so that they can say, “This is what I’m good at… I have a skill… I have a gift.” And they can feel good about that and confident in it.
I see people come alive when they’re doing what God wired them to do and it’s our job as parents to discover what that is and draw it out in our kids.
When we help them make discoveries about what they’re good at — their self esteem and confidence levels will explode. And it gives them direction in the confusing future they’ll see before them.
I heard a story of an architect who has excelled in his field and is one of the most successful architects in our country. He says he’s great at what he does because of his parents.
They saw that he liked to build when he was young. So they bought him building blocks and erect-a-sets.
And when he was in junior high, his dad helped him design a club house and build it. And they encouraged him to take all the drafting courses he could in high school. And helped him get into a good architecture college.
Today he says he loves what he does. He says when he goes to work it’s like recess.
Train your children in the WAY they should go, and it requires great discernment, long hours of observation and a lot of wisdom from God. But when we get it right and we motivate them to do what God created them to do — what a gift we give them.
The next commitment is:
A child developmental expert says that after studying people who grow up and fit into the healthy range of being well adjusted adults — you can almost always trace it back to the fact that they had at least one parent who loved them, and this is the word he used — irrationally.
And then he says, if you look at people who don’t get well adjusted and are always struggling and wind up in depression or crime or whatever, you can almost always trace it back and find that neither parent loved them irrationally.
And his conclusion was this: every human being, in order to just be normal, has to be loved abnormally — has to be loved irrationally.
Now I’m not a very good counselor. Counselors say things like, “So what I hear you saying is, or how does that make you feel?” I say things like, “Well, that was stupid.”
But when I do counsel, the root of most parent child relationships is this issue — Kids perceive their parents love to be very conditional, not irrational or unconditional.
Kids believe their parents love them when they do good things, if they get good grades. The parents love is probably unconditional, but the way it’s communicated, it’s very conditional.
They say, “You fulfill your end of the agreement and I’ll fulfill you with love.”
And you know what, this kind of love is a whole lot easier than irrational love.
Conditional love gives us, as parents, power; because we can get our kids to do what we want if we withhold our love.
And so what happens then is kids become performers. And performers become people pleasers. And people pleasers end up giving up their identity and their morality. They give up their values in order to please other people. It’s a terrible way to live.
Think about how you will communicate love to your children.
John Powell writes in his book Unconditional Love:
“There is nothing that can expand the human soul, actualize the human potential for growth, or bring a person into the full possession of life more than a love that is unconditional. We have labored for so long under the dilution that corrections, criticisms, and punishments stimulate a person to grow. Unconditional love is the only soil in which the seed of the human person can grow.”
Unconditional or irrational love!
The apostle Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 13:13:
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
The one that will last forever — the greatest of these is love.
Every human being needs to know that their mere existence on this earth is the source of delight and value to the people who brought them into the world.
I’ll say this as directly as I know how: It staggers me sometimes how careless parents get and what they communicate to their children.
A parent in a grocery store gets frustrated with a fussy toddler — not a defiant human being, just a human, fussy toddler — and the parent starts saying, “What’s the matter with you? Why do you act so stupid? I can’t take you anywhere.”
Think about what that’s doing to that child’s heart?
Kids grow up a little bit, and you’ll hear parents speak about their own children in ways that almost disown them:
Mike here, he’s our different one.
John is just not an athlete like his brothers.
We don’t know where we got Sarah.
Often the words are said in a jesting tone, but the message is real clear: This child is a disappointment. This child doesn’t make my eyes shine. This child doesn’t make me feel like a winner.
It’s not your kid’s job to make you feel like a winner.
Parents, you need to express affection and appreciation on a regular basis. And watch your kids carefully. Find out what language they best receive, and tell them that you love them.
If it’s awkward and you’re not real good at it, tell them anyway.
If you didn’t get it much when you were growing up, and that’s a source of pain to you, tell them anyway.
If sometimes they don’t tell you back, tell them anyway.
This is not about getting your children to make you feel loved. You are the parent.
It’s not your children’s job to fill up your neediness. You’re going to have to get that addressed somewhere else.
But it is your job is to love them irrationally.
Alright, last commitment:
Walk with God.
Deuteronomy 6:5-7 says:
Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul and strength. Always remember these commands I give to you today. Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road. Talk about them when you lie down and when you get up.
Do you know what the writer of Scripture is saying?
The job of spiritual input is the parents job — at the dinner table, in the car, when you put them in bed, when they get up — talking about God.
My job as a pastor is to reinforce what you’re already teaching at home. That’s your job.
And if we want our children to be formed spiritually, we can’t just teach them, it starts with our lives — we have to live it out.
If I want my children to value prayer and grow up communicating with God — they need to see it as important in my life.
If I want them to open up God’s word and to see it as vital to their existence, they need to see it as vital to my existence.
Their spiritual training starts with how I live my life.
Joshua 24:15 says:
Choose today whom you will serve. As for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.
Serving the Lord is a choice.
I hope we all can say that same thing as we commit to raising our children in a way that honors God — “as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.”
Let me close with this.
I read a story about a guy who was on a construction sight and he saw a two guys working at opposite ends. He couldn’t tell what they were building but he was very curious.
He went to one guy and said, “What are you building?” The guy said, “I’m not building anything. I’m just laying bricks.”
He walked around to the other end of the construction sight and saw another guy laying bricks. He said, “Hey, can you tell me what you’re building?”
This guy stands up, his eyes get big with enthusiasm. He said, “I’m building a great cathedral!” He went on to explain how incredible and wonderful it was going to be.
As I read that I thought what a wonderful image of what we can build into our children. We can either have the attitude, “I’m just laying bricks. I’m just getting by. I’m just waking up in the morning, trying to survive, and going to sleep.”
Or we can say, “I’m building into something great. God has made me a steward of my children. I’m building into something great. I’m doing the possible with faith that God will do the impossible to build that great cathedral.”
Alright, let me pray for you as you pursue these commitments for your children.